Value Every Day

As I sit in my chair at work talking with therapy clients, I am hearing something that is very familiar at this time of year.  There are a lot of people that do not like the holidays because it means spending time with their family that they do not like.   I have never understood this.  I don't spend time with people who don't value me or add happiness to my life.  

My rule is - if I would not invite them to lunch on a Tuesday, I won't spend special days with them - and all of my days are special.  I have one life to live and I do not choose to be miserable - not even for one day.  

I hear, "they are my family, I have to" and "I dread the day but have to get it over with".  If others are not treating you with the love and respect you deserve, you may need to check your "price tag".   I am not recommending that you avoid the Thanksgiving/Christmas holiday but I am suggesting that you spend your time wisely and don't welcome misery.  If you dread the holidays because of one particular person, you can try to avoid them or make a plan to visit those family members that you do enjoy on an alternate day that you can look forward to.   If you are not close to your family - you can choose your own family of friends that bring joy to your holidays.  Do not allow others to bring you down on any day.