Self Esteem Bucket

THIS. 🌀 What you put into your life, will return. YGOWYPI

One of the most important aspects of healing yourself. We all have a bucket. It collects things throughout your life and determines the quality of relationships, emotions, outcomes. It is 100% your responsibility to maintain your bucket. This analogy is one that I use with clients who are suffering.

What you put in your bucket is important. If you do good things, maintain good qualities and repeatedly add to your bucket - you have the opportunity to be full.

If you do bad things - and we all know what they are, so stop pretending - you create a hole in your bucket. Even if no one else knows, you can’t fool yourself. A hole is a hole until it’s fixed. You can patch a hole by reconciling the behavior - but, if you turn around and do it again, 💥 bigger hole. You can’t achieve a full bucket unless you have fixed your holes - it may just leak slowly but it will empty.

Sometimes, the behaviors are directed at others and other times it is directed towards self. It’s still a hole.

Here are some examples that people get confused by:

1) Being “nice” is often dishonest. Being kind is gracefully being honest.

2) Disrespecting yourself by tolerating others bad behaviors - ignoring red flags just to keep peace - making excuses for others - not trusting your intuition

3) Responding in a negative way (yelling, cursing, overly critical) is often mean, dishonest or blaming in an effort to avoid being accountable.

4) Not following through with a task is unreliable.

If you struggle with any form of anxiety or depression, starting with examining your bucket and making corrections is paramount.