Have you ever considered the idea that every relationship we have is like a dance?  We react to each other’s movements continuously.  If communication is poor, it turns out kinda messy.  If we make a wrong move, we chance stepping on the others toes.  If we choose to sit out, the other person doesn’t have any fun.  Sometimes you are the leader and sometimes you are the follower..   With each situation, the dance is different.   You can dance to music or make up your own.  

I recommend:  

1) Dance uniquely with your partner

2) Let your moves be known

3) Talk aloud to help the dancing be smooth

4) Never sit out on your partner

5). Don’t repeat mistakes

6) Lead when you are confident, otherwise follow

7) Make up your own music