Many of today’s problems would change if the person reporting (you, your friend, the media) changed their perspective.  For example, “My boyfriend broke up with me and I don’t know what to do” could be changed to “My boyfriend and I decided to just be friends and see what other opportunities life has in store”.  Or, try this one, “My Grandma died and I am so sad” could be changed to, “My Grandmother passed quietly in her sleep this morning and I spent the day with gratefulness in my heart because I knew her, experienced her greatness and have wonderful memories that I will celebrate for a lifetime.”  Each statement can and will impact your feelings and the behaviors that follow.  You decide the direction.  Your thoughts matter.    

Do you see a beautiful woman or an old, tired woman?  They are both there.