Real talk. Real tools. Short, powerful articles by Sandra K. Main to keep you grounded, growing, and moving toward possibility.
52 articles and counting.
May 2025
Anxiety has a subtle way of convincing us that thinking is the same thing as doing. The fastest way to reduce anxiety is often not to think more — it's to complete something...
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Have you ever noticed that when you think something often enough, you begin to see evidence of it everywhere? Your brain is not trying to hurt you — it is trying to be right...
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One of the most common issues discussed in therapy is … relationship struggles. Relationships are tricky because humans struggle. They struggle with being real. They struggle wi...
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THIS. 🌀 What you put into your life, will return. YGOWYPI One of the most important aspects of healing yourself. We all have a bucket. It collects things throughout your life...
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The COVID 19 pandemic has taken a toll on us all. We are all given notice to stop the very things that keep us healthy to “stay healthy”. I have expressed my discontent as I am...
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Lately, I have had several days that I have felt “off” and I had to go to the paper to figure it out. “Going to the paper” is something I teach everyday when I am helping others l...
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Have you ever considered the idea that every relationship we have is like a dance? We react to each other’s movements continuously. If communication is poor, it turns out kinda m...
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A word can change things drastically. What do you tell others about yourself when you speak? This week, I had some amazing sessions that led me to an understanding that was total...
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Some amazing things are happening with my brain right now. My mind is so very clear and I have so many ideas moving from fear to love. I feel as if I am leaping vs wandering. I h...
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Everyone seems to think there is a certain way to be or look. Truth is there are as many variations of this as there are people. However, people are constantly trying to become j...
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For years, I thought working with kids wasn’t for me because my childhood was traumatic and helping others in that stage of life would be too difficult. Actually, it is amazing!...
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This painting was created freehand, with love, completely unrehearsed, with flaws and perfection. Try this. . .tomorrow, throw away your list and just BE. Be 💯! Be 😃! Be ❤️! It...
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Did you ever consider that we, as a society, have been trained in resisting. We require this house, that car, a special blouse. jeans that are worn, expensive shoes, a purse that...
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Being part of the solution is where the MAGIC is. Managing “problems” is what others think I do. What I really do is look for the possibility. Seize the opportunity. Flip the t...
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A little bit of painful truth🤔 I love to pay attention to those around me and observe. It is something that helps me to help others to manage the things that end up creating anxi...
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Almost every problem we regret or encounter has silence or hesitation tied to it. This is the one thing that I have learned doesn’t work for me, especially in the helping role. I...
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This was an amazing experience! We were in the rainforest in Belize two years ago. It was exhilarating to be 4 inches away from a wild animal and recognize that he trusted our gui...
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One of the things that seems to escape almost everyone that walks through my door for therapy is. . . in order to be heard accurately, you must talk. Tell your story. Be YOU. Of...
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Returning home from a session of “A More Powerful You” youth group and I am perplexed. How are we more advanced in almost every way and our kids are behind in so many ways. I wit...
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I use stories to help people relate in therapy. My children are often the center of these stories because I know them and their unique needs. I raised them. These stories happen...
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This happens to be my favorite thing - discharge from services. It happens a lot. I would say, most of my clients who come to therapy with the idea “I am at my lowest. I don’t th...
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36 years old, doing what someone else told me to do? What the what? I saw a grown man today - Army veteran, 3 tours in Iraq, loving husband, successful artist - who “CANNOT figur...
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When you are struggling, it seems like the answer would be to “not think, not feel, not do.” Wrong. The best thing you can do is all three. Do a lot. Do so much that you know exact...
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I see many people for therapy. Oddly enough, most are struggling with one of a few problems. Those problems are guilt, relationship issues or low self esteem. While I know it s...
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Children are always learning, watching, picking up nonverbal cues, storing and retrieving information, filtering and practicing. How do I help my child manage their emotions? Man...
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1. You will learn skills to help you manage any emotion. 2. You will develop self talk that promotes power and allows you to control your reactions/behaviors. 3. You will lear...
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I am a therapist of 25 years and until 2 years ago, I had never practiced meditation. I thought, “that is the weirdest thing ever.” Then, one weekend as I was traveling, I had a...
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As a cognitive behavior therapist, I get many referrals from parents, doctors or other professionals related to acting out. It seems the trend is to medicate and “make it stop”....
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Sometimes, doing nothing about something is best. Do you find yourself overwhelmed? Do you feel exhausted? Are you out of time for enjoyment because there are too many problems...
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The most important part of discipline is reflection inward. Yesterday, my daughter was fussing with me about something I have asked her to do and I said to her, “I want you to pau...
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All behavior is purposeful. If you reward bad behavior, it will continue. And, it will grow. When you try to extinguish unwanted behavior, it typically gets worse before it get...
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Working with children gives things such an amazing perspective. All behavior is purposeful. Every referral to Possibility Junction comes with its own unique story. It’s my job t...
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Many of today’s problems would change if the person reporting (you, your friend, the media) changed their perspective. For example, “My boyfriend broke up with me and I don’t know...
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When you start a relationship of any kind, you develop expectations of the other person. If you do not state the expectations clearly, you can almost 100% guarantee that things wi...
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So many people are afraid of change. Change is a guarantee but we just aren’t consciously aware. Every single day is different in every way. We simply trick ourselves into think...
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If you are looking for a way to heal a relationship, this is a very powerful tool. For 30 minutes, face each other and hold hands while maintaining eye contact. Remain silent. I...
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If I have referenced this model once, I have referenced it one million times in my career. As I work with children, this is so important for parents and educators to remember. We...
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One of the many assignments I encourage others to use - just got pulled out and absorbed by me. "Going to the Paper" can save you and did. I haven't slept well for a few consecut...
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As Possibility Junction came to be, many along the way discouraged me, criticized me and laughed at my lofty goal. Simple. To help people get unstuck. To help them move from the...
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There is magic in this very simple exercise. If you fear something and you embrace it - it allows you to move past the fear. If you rehearse - out loud - as if it already is - yo...
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What do you see dear? Who do you see? You have got it all wrong if you are looking for me. Judgement is you yourself feeling inadequate. So, when you share your grief, pain or...
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One of the ickiest things adults do is play social games. Some of the most amazing people I have in my life are the ones who don't measure the quality of the relationship by how m...
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Tae Kwon Do tournament this weekend in Branson. It was a little difficult to think about it being the last time we attend a tournament with John Mynatt, my son's instructor. John...
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I love what I do. I had the pleasure of seeing a very angry 14 year old yesterday. He is angry for good reason - his parents use drugs and he has been in foster care since age 6....
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Do you wonder why the people of our world seem to be headed in the wrong direction? The answer is simple. They are NOT dealing with their issues. So many blame, hate, and harbor...
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When I get a referral, there is typically a goal in mind. Some say, "He needs anger management" or " She is depressed". I know, of course, that that is typically just a guess so...
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The reason so many people don't have common sense is because we don't hold them accountable for their behavior. Too many excuses to not use their brain. Common sense can be taugh...
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Why is it easy to be critical or defensive but hard to reflect internally? EVERY single thing we reject - we need to look at in order to move past our predetermined boundaries. I...
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Everyone wants to find love. We spend our time, energy and money to try to look right, do the right things, have the right stuff so that someone will "love" us. And, we get disap...
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Every single time change occurs it is because someone has made a decision. Change isn't hard but deciding you want it to be different is the challenge. We get used to the way our...
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Why exactly are curse words bad? These are words we made up and we give them the meaning and power they have. This is one of the tools I use in therapy daily. If I edit a person...
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When relationships end, most people describe themselves as broken. Broken because of the changes. Usually, the actual problem that started the beginning of the end is not holding...
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Today as I meditated, I was taken back to a pivotal time in my life - foster care. This photo depicts a single day in a child’s life in foster care. Everyone who has a hand in yo...
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The COVID 19 pandemic has taken a toll on us all. We are all given notice to stop the very things that keep us healthy to “stay healthy”. I have expressed my discontent as I am...
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