Being part of the solution is where the MAGIC is. Managing “problems” is what others think I do. What I really do is look for the possibility. Seize the opportunity. Flip the thought. I recognize the MAGIC and show others. The showing is what I am good at. Here is an example of MAGIC.
12 year old boy with bad behavior comes in with Mom. Mom had a lot to say but nothing explained his behavior. So, I went to the whiteboard and drew the infamous “bucket”. I explained the concept of the hole in the bucket that is caused by bad behaviors. The best part is explaining what happens when you have a behavior that doesn’t align with what you strive for - it’s like when your straw pokes a hole in the side of your Sonic cup. Liquid rushes out and drowns you from a very small hole. As you desperately attempt to cover the hole, it’s too late - all gone. Empty. Here is the MAGIC. The boy stood up and said, “Mom, is it ok that your husband does all of these things? Why am I the only problem you can see?” Tears fall down mom’s face. The boy reaches in his pocket and gives his Mom his phone which caused a fight earlier. He wants to align his behaviors. He needed his Mom to pay attention. Behavior works. I will see Mom next to work on structuring her home for the health of her family. The boy sacrificed himself to help his Mom see. ❤️
