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The Value Of Your Life Choices

Relationships are vital to your success in everything.   "No man is an island" is a statement that implies we all need someone.  Consider the relationships that you have and ask yourself "are they helping me or hurting me?"  Why do we sometimes hold onto people that actually harm us?  Why do we push people away that are good for us?  We do most things out of habit - so maybe it is time to evaluate your relationship habits.

I have many friends that say "Oh, I hate going to my family's house for the holidays."  So why do we go?  Well, I don't spend time with anyone who does not value me or that leaves me feeling exhausted.  Take a look at your "why do I do this?"  Sometimes, we do things because we don't want to be alone, we don't want to experience the change or we may even do it to not "rock the boat".  Remember, you are not responsible for others emotions.  Change has been the thing that has led me to find myself.  It can take you to yourself if you embrace it.  

If you go to work every day and dread it - ask yourself why do I keep coming here?  You may want to look at your choices and identify what you value.   Do you value habit, routine, others opinions, a paycheck, predictability?  We have definitely come to expect these things and sometimes we settle for less that what we want.   Recently, I began evaluating this for myself and I have identified time freedom (time to spend doing what I want with those I love) financial freedom (to not have to worry about what I don't have) and my own personal morals as most important.  

Over one year ago, I began my journey to find my authentic self and I have not spent one moment regretting that decision.  Each day gets me closer to what I value.  One of the most rewarding things about this journey is that I surround myself with people who value me, and value the important things in life. Family, Health, and Freedom.  

I encourage you to evaluate your life choices and if they are not making you happy - make the needed changes.