Throughout the years of helping people to find their happy, one thread is common in all situations.  Most people are looking for happiness outside of themselves.  They are looking for the right person, the right circumstance, or the right stuff to make them happy.   The guidance I provide is very simple.  Know yourself, accept yourself and create yourself. This is only difficult if you are unwilling to identify and admit any flaws or mistakes and be gentle with yourself.  Every single person has flaws, mistakes and misgivings.  These flaws make us unique and that is exactly what you should embrace ~ without apology.  The practice of being the real YOU is difficult if you pretend.  The one thing I know for sure, it doesn't matter what another thinks of you ~ that is about them.  You are the person and critic that matters.  Be gentle as you grow and create and the world is yours to have.