I had a conversation about "insensitivity" with a client yesterday. She asked, "how can I be more like you - insensitive?" I was at a loss so I did what I ususally do when that happens - I asked questions. I uncovered that she was wanting to become less reactive. I taught her "circle of control" which is a simple concept that allows you to change your perspective. YOU CAN NOT CONTROL OTHERS! We often take on others problems and become overwhelmed with negative emotions. You are only in control of a few things - your thoughts, your feelings and your behaviors. When you try to take on another persons problem - you lose your power. Sense of power and control = happy. In order to become less reactive you must ask yourself "is this in my circle?" This will allow you to respond with calmness and help you to become detached from the outcome emotionally and mentally. This is healthy detachment. Questions? Please ask. I am happy to help anyone master this skill.